Pacific Northwesterners are not known for their warmth and friendliness but for being polite, yet cold, to others. People say it’s hard to make friends and many feel isolated. And while I can see that mentality occasionally, such as in a crowded public place, I have made wonderful friends as an adult.
I often see people help each other out, and as I get older and adult friendships become more established, I increasingly see the value beyond the emotional. I see friends help each other move, people bring in food to share at work (the GovJobs are especially terrible for the waistline), and I often see the exchange of goods between friends. When someone doesn’t need something that someone else does, I see a ton of hand-me-downs.
For example, I recently went through my bathroom products to get rid of excess and reorganize. I am a notorious product hoarder, and it got really bad after I had Bo (I have genetically and chronically dry skin and my hair was falling out… I was trying everything but nothing was working!). I’ve been wanting to combat the urge to keep things I don’t use. Since all of the products were open and not brand new, I knew I couldn’t return them. I asked a friend who works with the women’s shelter, and she said that they would not take them because they were open. But, if I didn’t want them, she would take them and share them with her daughter! So I just handed them off! Some of them had barely been used, so I’m sure there was quite a bit of value in there:
And just this week, I have a different friend who is moving. Her kids are teens and she’s getting rid of Leogs. LEGOS! I asked how much she wanted for them, and she said nothing and offered them to me. With a kiddo who is getting close to the building age, I took her up on that in a heartbeat.
It’s a great feeling to be building community around me. I enjoy having friends, coworkers, and family (such as my MIL) that actively find opportunities to help each other out.
Tell me about opportunities that your community has taken to help each other out? Do you feel that you have a large and broad community? Close and tight-knit?